#Ies ve sucks how to#

Fi somehow becomes attracted to Te instead.ДЄnyone able to explain this from the other points of view? How does your type of thinking/feeling respond to the feeling/thinking that you find attractive in others? But Fi says: You're still a good person, I'm loyal to you, even if you're quadriplegic. You're in that category - you're quadriplegic. Or else I am more focused on trying and trying and trying to fix it, endlessly, even when I can't.ДЇi: Why isn't Fi attracted to Ti? What is it about Ti that Fi doesn't like? Ti: Tell it like it is. Or they just seem indifferent, and don't care and don't respond enough. People respond with, 'Eh, that's pathetic,' or 'Stop complaining' or something of that sort. But if I had great strength in Fe, I would say to people 'This is what's wrong with my life, that sucks, feel it along with me, and we'll all agree about how bad this sucks!' That is a weakness of Fe. So over the years I stopped trying to say 'It sucks to be me! Look at how badly it sucks to be me! I'm in this category and I hate it!' Whenever my life sucks, I just keep quiet about it (and write a blog). Te has weakness of Fe: I would love to express a feeling, however when I do, I can't get anyone else to go along with it. There's nothing to do about it - it sucks to be us - so now is the appropriate time to feel feelings, and express them, after someone dies. (Yes, this is Te-biased and written by me from my point of view, I realize that.) So for me personally, for instance, I try not to express feelings about a situation until it's absolutely obvious that there's no solution, no fix, and there isn't going to be one - for instance, death. It's not necessary to feel any emotions at all, until and unless we're absolutely sure that the situation is un-fixable. Keep trying and trying to find ways to fix it. Te: Don't express feelings prematurely - it's fixable. Therefore I'll just express my feelings about it.

Does that sound like Fi?ДЇe: The situation is bad. Your goodness doesn't change much, or if it does, it only changes slowly. I'll stick with you, I'll love you no matter what, because of who you are.

#Ies ve sucks how to#

I'll stick with the person who knows how to fix things.' Is that how Fi sees Te? Fi: You're a good person. What does Fi do in response to Te? I can see how Ti says 'You're in that category' and Fe responds with 'It sucks to be in that category.' But how does Fi respond to Te? 'You're a good person. You are not doomed.ДЇi: ? I'm having a hard time verbalizing this one.

You are *not* stuck in a permanent category. That category is only temporary, not permanent. It does suck, but I will cure your cancer, make you straight again (yes, I'm joking by the way, even *I* don't try to 'cure' everything, and I don't try to cure gayness, but I'm saying this just to fit with the 'Te' spirit that I'm trying to define here), make you some robot legs so you can walk again, give you a makeover, etc. Te: It doesn't have to be that way! I can fix it. All that remains is to just express how badly it sucks. This is a static, long-lasting category that you can't easily get out of.ДЇe: That sucks! I hate being quadriplegic, gay, ugly, etc, etc. You are quadriplegic, gay, ugly, stupid, dying of cancer, whatever. This will all be from a Te-biased point of view, but still, I want to know if these descriptions resonate with anyone, or if anyone can add to them. I don't mean the 'hidden agendas,' just agendas in general. I'm struggling to describe the Ti/Fe and Te/Fi agendas in my own words. Warning: This description is horribly, horribly biased towards Te! I actually would like to get more feedback from people from other points of view.